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Sunday, October 27, 2013

Celebrating One Year of Marriage!

Looking toward the future
 Celebrating Our One Year Anniversary
October 27, 2013


     One year ago today, I married a wonderful man, Stephan Rambie. Our first year of marriage has been quiet eventful, full of unexpected things, full of laughter, adventure and learning. As we visited today, I shared with Stephen that despite the great loss of my parents, the year has gone much better than I had expected. Stephen and I are both pretty strong people and I wondered if our first year would be a little challenging because we are both know what we want in life and are set in our ways. Much to my surprise, transitioning our lives together has been seamless. I remember someone praying that over us and God heard that prayer. I cannot even think of one disagreement we have had. I guess being older, we are a little smarter and have both learned from mistakes in our pasts. We are both easy going and both spontaneous.
     The unexpected things began 5 weeks after we were married when my mom ended up  at the emergency room, my dad was hospitalized shortly after that. We found out he had a rare bone cancer and 15 hours later, mom had passed away. It wasn't even two months later that dad passed away. Our first three months of marriage were spent in hospitals and funeral homes...
Dove Hunting In Uvlade
     Somehow I married a man with a great sense of humor and even in the midsts of everything, he kept me laughing. We have spent much of this year living in two different towns which makes it interesting as I never know where I will end up sleeping! Stephen has done most of the traveling from Uvalde to Kerrville as most of his work is there. September and October, I did the traveling as it was dove season and we have a hunting business, Events Unlimited. We really have not had the time to settle into our life with the loss of my folks, blending our families, new grand babies and life in general. We talk a lot about different ideas but right now, we are enjoying life in both towns.

Chamber Banquet

Fishing at Lake Amistad
Our family

     I've met lots of new people in Stephen's life and have learned how to fish and dove hunt. He has met   at least half of Kerrville, as he puts it, has gone to more social events in the last year than in his whole life! He has enjoyed the adventure and we have even blended the social events with unique purchases! We love to dance and frequently go dancing with friends.  We have enjoyed cooking together and entertaining in both Uvalde and Kerrville.
Truett Payne

Collins Elise

We have loved becoming grandparents and fun times with our kids. We have grown a lot this year and have covered many of life's major events from marriage, death, and birth.  We've prayed together through each event and most of all, our love has grown.
   




Sunday, October 20, 2013

Turning Darkness to the Light of His Grace


Kerrville Daily Times Article
October 2013



Four years ago this week,  life as I knew it changed dramatically when my late husband left this earth. He had been a part of my life since I was sixteen. As I flip through the pages of my life since then, I see each page stamped with God’s grace. What do I mean by that statement? God’s power to uphold, cradle a broken heart, lead me into the unknown and give me life again has sustained me. II Corinthians 12:9 was one of the scriptures that God would always remind me of in times that I thought I could not go on. “But he said to me, My grace is sufficient for you, my strength is made perfect in weakness.” (NIV)

My father always taught as a child to be strong. Even though I was a girl, my dad would always say, “Suck it up, be strong, you are a Jones.” So for much of my life, that is what I did. Yet, I find in scripture, God wants our dependency to be on His strength, not ours. That was a freeing revelation for me as I found it was ok to be weak and dependent on God and embrace our emotions, instead of burying them. I had permission from God to embrace my weakness. I didn’t have to be strong, I just had to trust in Him more, instead of myself.

As I look at the chapter of my life story now, things look very different. Much has changed. There are new people in my life, , a new husband and grand babies, new people I work with, and many new adventures. God’s grace, his power and love have brought me to a new place in life. The key in trials and uncertainty of life is not letting the trial overwhelm you. Many many times, I had to push the overwhelming feelings away and preach to myself to simply trust God in the pain and look to His power, not mine. The greatest thing I’ve gained, is experience with God in the valley of life. Those experiences have made me a rich woman, although the cost has been great. The beauty is, I get to give that life to other broken and afraid people. 

Isaiah 42:16 is marked and dated  about two years ago in my Bible. I held on to the promise and now I know it is true. It says, “ I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them.” (NIV) God has navigated me when I was on an unfamiliar path learning to live alone. He has guided me and we have had some really fun adventures along the way. When grief would knock my feet out from under me and life seemed dark, God put me back on my feet and turned the light on. He has given me strength in the rough places and grace to extend to others that haven’t walked where I’ve walked and caused me more pain. God never forsake me, although at times it felt like it.

I am living proof that His grace is sufficient. Wherever you are in life, grab on to His grace. Let God lead you through the darkness at home, in your job, in your relationships, illness, in your grief, or in your finances. He loves you dearly and so do I.

Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie is a native to the Texas Hill Country, a writer and speaker. She is passionate about helping people discover their value and worth and God’s love, You can reach her at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com or visit her blog at www.themaxwellminutes.blogspot.com 





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Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Special, Precious and Honored...What More Could You Want?

Community Journal and Kerrville Daily Times
September 2013
Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie 


So many times in our busy lives we get wrapped up in the day to day rhythm of life and can forget how incredibly special we are to the Lord. Remembering that fact and reminding ourselves of the truth can strengthen us, boast our confidence and steady us in the most challenging of circumstances. Isaiah 43 states several time the phrase, “This is what the Lord says.” What God says about us trumps every other card in life that is played against us. 
A Father's love...
Precious granddaughter Collins Maxwell

So what do you do when the circumstances or cards of life are stacked against you? Each of us is responsible for our own spiritual growth and development. So what are you doing to grow? Reading the Bible is a start, but more importantly is really choosing to believe the truth written in the word of God. Isaiah 43:4 states God’s heart for the nation of Israel and for each of us. “Since you are precious and honored in my sight and because I love you...” No matter what you’ve done wrong, no matter how bad you have messed up, God looks at you with affection.
My precious grandson and daughter
I am the proud grandmother of two new grand babies. Just like most grandparents, I adore these new additions to the family. Each of them is precious, honored and loved simply because of who they are — and God’s love for you and me is even greater than that.
All people want to feel special and important and each of us want to be honored and valued. I was listening to a woman recently who confided she did not feel valued in her current position and spoke about the devaluing she was experiencing by her supervisor, which was wearing on her. What was sad to me was this capable and talented woman felt pushed aside by the words and insecurity of someone else. She needed a good dose of “This is what the Lord says...since you are precious and honored in my sight and because I love you...”
We live in a world that is full of people who desperately need to know they are special, important and valued. Why not let God use you today to help fill someone else’s bucket? Speak what is in your heart and God’s heart to those you encounter. God wants each of us to know we are special, honored and loved and I want to be like Him.
 Isaiah 43:5 states, “Do not be afraid, for I am with you.” It is easy when we have been rejected by others to be afraid or hesitant to share what is in our heart but God tells us to step out on the water again and find our security in Him. Today, God wants you to personally know that you are precious, honored and loved and He wants you to give that gift to those you meet. I challenge you to say, “Lord, I choose to believe that I am precious, honored and loved by you,” and then show others they are, too.
Oct. 10 would have been my Mom's Birthday...I miss her.


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